Almost cheated when drunk If she had been telling the truth, and she was as drunk as she said, that would not have been cheating. I know it’s bad, I don’t have any reasonable complaints with my husband, we’re happy our life is great. Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or… . I don't know. It's called living your life. Don't blame the alcohol. The first one I cut loose. Even if you decide to break up with your girlfriend, don’t enter into a relationship with your friend. I met my wife at 21 and I’m 29 now with a one year old. Posted by u/Kojinb - 1 vote and 21 comments Some backstory: my fiance got very drunk once when we first started dating and told me that I would have to watch him while he's drunk because he… Short of being drugged or having sex while unconscious, you're solely responsible for getting so drunk you cheated on your boyfriend. 2) Killing a person because you are drunk is far more serious than cheating on your spouse because you are drunk. In fact, I would talk about how much I loved my now wife. Margaret Paul, PhD. Jan 30, 2022 · Here is the situation. Then a few years later, but less drunk. 10M subscribers in the relationship_advice community. I… Jan 14, 2015 · You don't tell a spouse you almost cheated unless there's an underlying situation and you're not happy in your marriage. One cheated for 25 years and the other for 10. I cheated on this girl I absolutely loved. Jan 2, 2025 · Drunk Cheating Psychology. Friend had come over for a movie night, we had some drinks, I went to bed and they stayed up drinking and watching a show they both like. If you want to see how fast a drunkard can make some proper decisions, put them in a grave life threatening situation. Posted by u/Sad_Ad_4561 - 202 votes and 166 comments It was almost an almost-kiss. It depends on whether you believe someone can consent while drunk. All married. That’s the get out of jail free card people use, but we’ve all been drunk off our asses. Then he did it again a few years later - also while very drunk. Being drunk just makes you bold enough TO cheat if you’ve been wanting to. As a revenge I went on a few tinder dates and had few one night stands. But those drunk white girl stories about them comforting sad people or giving people random things like a leaf are definitely me. Married for 16 years, wife barely drank until the last 6. 261 - 280 of 435 Posts. I don't care about that. But cheating is not only kissing or having sex, cheating starts a lot earlier than that. In the end what you do is always your own choice, but ask yourself a few questions. Aug 5, 2013 · OP, my husband cheated on me while very drunk one time. I can honestly say I wouldn't have stayed with him if he didn't tell me and I found out months later. Hi Rick, My husband cheated on me at least 7 times with one night stands while drunk. true. : “Infidelity generally comes from the same inner emptiness as alcohol and drug abuse, food addiction, gambling, spending, shopping and so on. 21 - 40 of 435 Posts. If she had backed away from this guy and set up boundaries as soon as she realized that they were attracted to each other, that would be "almost cheating". Please dont automatically tell me to leave because cheating is cheating and you had a bad experience yourself. But if he ever almost cheated with another woman, I would definitely want to know and I feel like I'm robbing him of his right to know this by concealing it. 361 - 380 of 435 Posts. I work in a bar and 6 months ago I almost kissed my colleague (22F) while completely wasted one night after work. We were drinking lots and lots of alcohol and I got so wasted that most of the night is a blur. I couldn’t bare the shame I felt and told him immediately. An anonymous security guard says he was “too drunk. She was kinda shy about answering, but said it was fun, she got too drunk and went home early. We’re both lesbian, together for almost 2 years. Everyone at the party said we kissed. But yes he is still in the same company. It absolutely sucked. Almost cheating, cheating, trying and failing, flirting online and sexting. I don’t trust myself. and so was his friend. If someone can’t give consent while drunk, then any cheating shouldn’t count, even if it was with another drunk person. My guess is she would have been quite sloppy black out drunk. What you SHOULD tell your husband is that the stress of things is really getting to you, and then the BOTH of you should go to the club or hit the town or go on a date or book a getaway at She is more daring. CRAIGSLIST. Tell her the relationship has obviously gone downhill for both of you and be sure to mention the arguing, irregular sex, etc, and that her cheating has cemented what you both have been feeling: that the time to end the relationship is now. We got engaged 6 months ago, and the wedding is set for the end of April. The way things are going if we have a update will be " I cheated in my husband whit my coworker" this dude already show to you that he will try again , and now that you are so emotional he will try again bk doubt , you should have keep him away from you , now you are both disrespecting your husband and fueling his worry that you may cheat as you are give what Gabe wants that is your attention a/n; some of them are longer than others! requests are closing soon, so send any last minute ones! 😊;old friends of yours had invited you to a local bar to talk and catch up on the new things in your lives, and you happily accepted. Even though she is taking all the rights steps in order to fix her mistake, I feel betrayed and angry with her and I don't know if I get the right to feel that way. These seemingly minor actions can still cause significant harm to your partner and the relationship. We occasionally got drunk together and had a blast. He says he never had compulsions to cheat when sober. Going home alone with her while drunk is bad news. If you worry that your boyfriend may become violent or put you in danger if you tell him you cheated, don’t tell him you cheated. When I came back, I asked her how the party was. Understanding micro cheating, what it looks like, and its impact can help you recognize it and help Mar 22, 2017 · If she almost never drinks and had 7-8 drinks that particular night she would be out of her right mind drunk. We have a group of friends who we hangout with and have game nights regularly. Aug 15, 2016 · If she hides behind being drunk, well, read the article below. If the girl said yes, he would have cheated. I was so drunk, that I don't totally remember why he cried or what we were talking about to lead up to it. Jump to Latest Status Not open for further replies. Long story short, my friend (24M) and I (27F) got extremely drunk and hooked up. That woman is not a friend and not someone you can trust. You, are a lying, cheating, gaslighting piece of shit. 2 months ago, my[30M] wife [30F] confessed to almost cheating on me. Maybe you craved the adventure, or perhaps it was the result of underlying relationship issues. They were like pros. Cut your friends cause they didn’t stopped you from doing it and that’s a bs advice you should be harder on yourself cheating is cheating no matter what you are a grown woman if you know that you get drunk you don’t drink at the first place and also why going to an open party without your boyfriend? So, I know this story is already a little old, but I need to add this. if you think being drunk means you CANT consent, then its not. There are no drunken accidents when cheating. EDIT: Just to clarfiy something: Yes, almost a year after this happened we decided to get pregnant. Partner (M30) attempted to cheat when drunk, and I (F25) wasn’t around Hi, I (25F) have been with my partner (30M) for over three years now, and we have been living together pretty much throughout our relationship . He was very hurt but said he would forgive me. Lol what a shit excuse. Jun 29, 2016 · Wife cheated while almost black out drunk. The friend was telling me how pretty his girlfriend was, so I kept talking to him thinking it would be fine. 5. I have had sex with married women, none were drunk. He sought out strangers on Craigslist. I don't think I'm fooling myself. They're responsible for their actions, you're responsible for yours. She says she was blackout drunk and couldn’t remember everything that happened. No, that’s not cheating, ALMOST isn’t cheating, and he was drunk, and tired, maybe he thought it was you giving him a blanket cause he was drunk Clearly, she got into an emotional affair with this guy weeks before that happened. You either know your Limit while drinking or you should face the wrongdoings you did while being drunk. This is the kind of behavior that leads to cheating, which is exactly why you're in this predicament. My boyfriend of almost one year ended getting drunk with this random girl from the bar one night away Town from me. She revealed that on that fateful night when I almost killed myself, I had actually tried to kiss her, but she stopped me. Apr 12, 2016 · I was so angry. For him to say he didn’t realize how drunk you were is a lie. In the case of He was getting you drunk with the intention of taking you home. I can’t talk to her, I tell her just to go to bed. This pays off sexually, of course, but there are other ways too. You cheated emotionally 100%, you also cheated on him sexually, just were turned down. It's almost like cheating on her in a way! I love her both ways, of course, but seeing the drunk version is fun. If my gf cheated at a party whilst drunk, what’s going to stop her doing it at the next party? Or the one after? So I stop letting her go to parties? And end up in a controlling toxic relationship? That’s why to me, personally, if you cheat you’re gone straight away simple Dec 27, 2024 · Now the hard part…2 weeks ago, I made the poor decision of meeting up with another man and cheated (no sex but cheating nonetheless). Drunk drivers don't get a pass because of their drunkenness because they got so drunk they made poor decisions. nothing happened, but I feel really bad because I almost cheated on you etc etc" sound like a real wuss to me. That would have been assault. There wasn’t a reason to ever cheat I was just very very drunk every-time I did it. who knew he was in a relationship. AITAH for agreeing to a divorce after I(40m) almost cheated on my wife(41f)?? I almost cheated on my wife due to sexual frustration. " That's the title of a post a 28-year-old Reddit user wrote this week. Throwaway for obvious reasons. However, drunk cheating and sober cheating carry different connotations. I woke up and I was laying on the floor next to him on the couch. Sep 23, 2015 · "I almost cheated on my husband. He was out until almost 4:30 am with coworkers I never met, drinking. Not that he went to Hooters. He said he was sorry, and he just didn't think he should tell me he was at Hooters, after he had just hurt me by telling me that he almost cheated. Heck, he may have been drunk too. since she was drunk and is not really a cheater, according to OP. this however goes for both men and women, where most people believe a drunk woman CANT consent while a drunk man CAN. Dec 23, 2017 · Wife cheated while almost black out drunk. Feb 2, 2024 · Talk with people who know what it’s like Forum; Articles; Books; Need Urgent Help? Home Jun 14, 2024 · Micro cheating refers to subtle behaviors that may not be considered infidelity outright, but still involve secrecy and dishonesty within a committed relationship. you asked your boyfriend if he would want to join you, but he was too caught up in work that he was unable to. None of this is black and white. my wife finally comes home and she’s stupid drunk. jjbarr19. he trusted you to go to a bar on your own anyways Thanks for this , been doing this over for months on end over about a dozen minor events years ago when me and my gf (now wife) that had happened when I was a younger man all while drinking and really playing into the what if’s and confessing to her over and over and even confessing to things I know I didn’t do but I can’t prove my innocence to my ocd , it’s debilitating but she’s . Even when drunk they would try to make the right moves to get out of said hypothetical alive. Take the exit, especially if you weren't happy with her before she cheated. I'm 32 f, and I have been your gf in my younger years. But the fact that he lied to me AGAIN. Lets just say my upbringings made me think cheating was okay and this mixed with alcohol did not go very well. But something just makes me want him. Getting drunk with that girl is bad news. Here's the problem- she is so drunk she doesn't even know if she willingly cheated on him or is repulsed in sober hindsight. u. But the moment you started to think about your consequences you started to feel guilty, and from how you just said that you never denied it after I didn’t say anything about you denying it shows me that you see yourself as the victim and not your boyfriend. if you think someone drunk can consent, then yes it is cheating. Yes! My bf cheated on me a year and a half ago drunk and he owned up to it the next day. Nov 26, 2023 · My girlfriend of almost 5 years cheated on me while black out drunk. Had all the ways to not get caught, motels that rented by the hour, etc. I don’t remember half of the night, but my boyfriend claims I cheated. I hate hate hate that misconception. I think that’s why I haven’t responded yet. 161 votes, 64 comments. He almost cheated and probably was harboring these feelings for s while that he Feb 15, 2009 · Because it has only happened when I've been black-out drunk and I am going to stop drinking when I am not around him. I believe that not telling him is robbing him of his right to know 100% because it is definitely something I would want to know happened so that my SO and I could work on how to fix it This is the problem with cheating, leaves the other with 0 trust. Your girlfriend did drink to much and you shouldnt absolve her of the cheating just because she was drunk to be honest. My wife and I are both almost 30 and we have been married 9 years. My boyfriend and I had been arguing a lot a few months ago, it was terrible, I seriously wondered whether we could get through this, as it was about two Oct 14, 2018 · First, your wife did not almost cheat on you, she did cheat on you; kissing him and giving him a hand job is cheating, and thus something did happen. And to get drunk from wine, he must really not used to alcohol. I wouldn't want that version of her all the time though. I'm not saying they can't work past this, but if she can't work past what made it all right for her to do this there is almost no hope of a good ending for OP. ” The cheater claims they were mentally or emotionally impaired when the betrayal happened. No. As for advice, I'd say play both cards. In neither case did I not know what I was doing. If you use being drunk as an excuse you shouldn’t be drinking. 1 2 of Nov 1, 2024 · This one is often paired with explanations like, “I was drunk,” or, “I was going through a hard time. 1 14 I (23 f) had posted something a day or two ago, talking about how to stop feeling anxious when my boyfriend (23 m) goes out late. You did an absolutely awful, disgusting and shameful thing it's that simple. So my boyfriend is understandably upset with me, I am very confused and guilty about everything and J is happy with the experience cause he had fun. She has been the love of my life and we both have never been with anyone else (until now i guess). I couldn’t get a reply from my wife the whole time this was happening and I didn’t even know if she was coming home. But to cry RAPE when she herself can't even describe what happened is one problem that leads to men being innocently convicted or lives ruined. Posted by u/3upset5me - 6 votes and 7 comments I've drunk fucked, I've got so drunk I've tried to fuck but the crippler wasn't up to it and was already asleep. If you cheated on him with a completely random person you just met that night, those events span the duration of that night, all your decisions, sober and drunk. Dude she cheated being drunk is no excuse I’ve been super drunk before and had girls try to do something with me but rejected them. How would you feel if your boyfriend came and said to you, "I'm sorry babe I wasn't thinking clearly I was so drunk I just got a blowjob from some girl at the bar I'm the parking lot". Cheating is a choice, not a mistake. "Almost cheating" is being strongly tempted to cheat, but backing away at the last minute. Maybe she pressured him. I’ve been drunk to the point were I could barely pick my head up and still had the self awareness to not even think about cheating. yea I (21f) was wasted drunk and I know that's not an excuse. For example, one drunk night I met a guy and apparently made plans to go sky diving. They were friends, coworkers and acquaintances, etc. Dec 17, 2014 · Cheating is cheating is cheating, drunk or sober. 341 - 360 of 435 Posts. In one case, you have killed a person, who can't be brought back to life. Prior to being cheated on: I would have said almost certainly it was a relationship killer, but there would have been a slight possibility we could have worked it out. I get black out drunk very easily and say/do some pretty crazy things that I would never do sober. I lvoe everyone when I'm drunk and I'm all about peace and harmony and physical connection (not sexual). The act of going to his place was cheating. That also means I’m not expecting to hear “stay and work it out”. I get to experience a different side of her. He believes that 95% of the reason for his acting out is alcohol. I was at my friend's place, and her boyfriend got drunk and kissed his ex. So think about the situation as if it did happen. She didn’t JUST accuse him of cheating, she accused him of assaulting her. The drunk white girl I turn into is completely different than the sober one. You're assuming too much. He ended up f***ing her that night . But yesterday I got the worse news of life and I don't know where to turn. Find a way to leave the relationship, and remember that your safety matters. I got really drunk last night and fooled around with a friend a bit. Then a few years after that, only not really very drunk at all. Getting drunk was a choice, and cheating was a choice as well. And they work in the same company but he doesnt live in my city. She loses a lot of inhibitions. Jun 6, 2022 · If your cheating involved unprotected sex, telling your boyfriend what happened is important for his health. The likelihood of cheating is much higher when you’re drunk. There’s a high connection between drinking and cheating. Second, there is more that happened that she will never tell you; that is why she does not want you to talk to him. Not that the other girl is at all (that was just a drunk thing), but fuck, maybe I'm wasting my gf's time and mine. Maybe you have some deeper issues you should deal with? Like a girlfriend who abandones you for a "few Mar 31, 2017 · 1) Hey commenters, wrongful death is a crime, cheating is not. so umm. My (30F) wife cheated on me on Friday night with my best friend (also a gay woman) and I don't know what I'm supposed to do now. It's all one big bucket of shit. After being cheated on: hell no. Often while drunk, he would message the women he had previously been with. First of all, drunk words are not sober thoughts. I went there to offer support, and during our conversation, she dropped a bombshell. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. I went on a business trip out of state and there I met a woman at a bar. In fact, I had no trust issues at all. My husband claims if he hadn't been drunk, he never would have cheated and never would have continued sending follow up messages. I (32 F) cheated on my husband (33 M) of 8 years in the back of a car parked less than a block away from my house last night I don't know what came over me but I was out drinking with my girlfriends and I got a little too tipsy and accepted a ride home from a guy I met at the bar. We are still together almost 3 years later. When she gets really drunk, she turns into a sex gremlim, completely out of control. Put yourself in his shoes. In one respect, a non-alcoholic encounter means your partner made the May 25, 2021 · Cheating was probably not on your agenda when you got into a relationship, but — it happens. He thought I would be upset or worried, and it wasn't his choice to go there. It’s not like he was drunk and at a bar and almost accidentally kissed a woman he was having a “deep” bar conversation with. Of course if they cheated on you drunk, and they really like beer there is a risk they will cheat on you again, so you need to ask yourself "is this still a good relationship if I get cheated on every year or 2" before you forgive them. We were both drunk. Hanging out alone with one girl consistently while your girlfriend is miles away is bad news. Weird. I feel ashamed for what I did but it was almost hard for me to believe because I never even would THINK about cheating. She weighs almost nothing. Imagine d. And he definitely doesn't deserve that. He says he never would have been capable of cheating when sober. 1 18 Aug 8, 2012 · Wife cheated while almost black out drunk. 7-8 drinks is considered binge drinking and many risks are elevated including sexual indiscretions. Thats why he told her. Knowing that she maliciously betrayed my trust was a horrifying feeling. 2. She cheated so is clearly a cheater. He has been sober 6 months through AA, since the second D-Day. So the next day I wake up and don't mention the night before AT ALL. Okay reddit I've never come to you for anything. He says he never would have been capable of cheating when We (i am 29 y. I (21M) tried to make a move on my friend who was driving me home from a party last week. And 3 years after it happened we took jobs in a different state that brought us closer to family. According to Dr. Most of us haven’t cheated. Their husbands never got suspicious. . o and he is 30 y. You really should run. Fast forward to today. Unless you keep the new girl on hand Posted by u/itsathrowaway45 - 18 votes and 32 comments Sep 12, 2017 · If she almost never drinks and had 7-8 drinks that particular night she would be out of her right mind drunk. ” My(35) wife(32) and I have been married for almost 13 years and together for 15. I don't think this is "rug sweeping" or trying to cure anything with a baby or relocated. Look, you cheated because you thought nothing would happen to you. If you were truly blackout drunk,the only way you couldn’t realize someone was that drunk is if you closed your eyes,but even then you can hear the drunkenness in their voice. We met in college and now have a great life with 3 beautiful boys, a home in the suburbs, own rental properties and we are close to opening a business. That said, given OP's comments about the guys wife calling everyone hed had affairs with, I suspect youre right and he took advantage of a drunk woman. If she has no issue cheating with her current SO, she will cheat on you too. 81 - 100 of 435 Posts. I guess I kinda cheated, I did kiss someone else but I almost feel like wanting. You almost cheated because you allowed yourself to be in that situation given your attraction to your friend. Sep 14, 2024 · Drunk cheating refers to acts of infidelity that occur while under the influence of alcohol. Sep 26, 2016 · Here, 19 people talk about the moment they almost cheated on their partner — and why they decided not to, and how they feel now. I agree with this. The moment you feel the need to hide something from your spouse is when cheating starts. Going to a girlfriend telling "honey, you know. Apparently this is not the first time he has cheated and his wife asked him to confess everything or she would divorce him. Her situation isn't what you might think: "I've been with my husband for six years, married 3. Also, if he was so drunk that he totally lost control and that's why he cheated, it is strange that he could control his thoughts while having sex. For a year and a half I had no trust issues caused by him being drunk. If it was with someone you knew earlier, the time span grows substantially, but it is always there. So, my advise would be to confess everything to your husband. It's an attempt to minimize responsibility, reducing their infidelity to a mere lapse in judgment. I told her that I really liked her and she said she liked me too, yadda-yadda, I went in for the kiss and she stopped me, thankfully And now I'm thinking, maybe my gf isn't the right one for me. Cheated on boyfriend when completely drunk, feel terrible, what to do? I have cheated on my boyfriend (long-distance relationship, 22 years old) with someone I had been on two dates with. I am 21 and I am 4 months sober. So, nothing happened. Part of me wants to break up with my boyfriend cause in a way it feels like I almost cheated on him while very drunk. Posted by u/throwaway64359945588 - 5 votes and 24 comments Nov 4, 2013 · Wife cheated while almost black out drunk. Drinking and smoking for about 7 years. I have been cheated on twice. I’m deeply requesting mature advice from both perspectives I (26F) got cheated on by my 24F partner. Or drunk loooots of wine. You are still a newlywed 2 years in. Edit- So I got some more answers from the wife of the guy she cheated with. 1 5 Dec 21, 2017 · Wife cheated while almost black out drunk. Tags affair cheating. Being “drunk” is just a cop-out for cheaters. Shoddy-Ad-6303 "Maybe her husband should not have been passed out drunk upstairs leaving her alone with a man?" Also Apparently it looks like he has a drinking problem and the fact he didn't say goodnight it sounds like he's not attentive husband and could be reason for OP behaviour. That means they are not brainless zombies. o) have been dating for almost 2 years and are best friends and have been close friends for many years prior to when we began dating. Back to the topic at hand. And I know a lot of people are advising you to keep it to yourself because you did not actually cheat. My friend who drove me home… Put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes - would you want to find out 14 months from now that she cheated? Would you be able to forgive not only the cheating but the lying about it for over a year? r/relationships might have nicer advice - but you cheated on your girlfriend and sort of deserve to lose her. I’s “I was so drunk officer I don’t remember driving and getting in my car” Jul 30, 2007 · BOB ends up crying too. He was cheating because he wanted to and could, not because he was drunk. Your fiance deserves to know you cheated on him. We are happy together and our relationship is very healthy. I love my boyfriend so fucking much. This can range from flirtatious behavior and kissing to full-blown sexual encounters with someone other than one’s partner. We started chatting and felt the spark. He says that when drunk, he would get a "vibe" from a women and then pursue it, but also claims that every woman he cheated with threw herself at him. Cheating while drunk isn’t malicious, or at least isn’t nearly as malicious as while sober. You feel awful because you found out your wife doesn't love you enough to be loyal. I do remember hugging him and holding him. You ended up in bed as his place and tried to initiate sex. He was sober,you were not. So my boyfriend is understandably upset with me, I am very confused and guilty about everything and J is happy with the experience cause he had fun. A few years ago I went to a birthday party where my ex thought I’d cheated (his friend saw us when we came by to get stuff for the party), when I got home he immediately started accusing me of cheating and then few days later he admitted he almost cheated on me that night w/ a chick who’d been wanting to get in his pants for awhile. Thankfully, none of these women responded to him, but just writing them is cheating in my book. In the other case you have killed a marriage, but it might be brought back to life. Like everyone who gets married young, we started out with little money and i have I got very drunk and started talking to one of my boyfriend’s friends on the couch. 1 19 Two months ago, I went out of town for 3-4 days, and she went out drinking with a large group of friends for a going away party for one of her friends that was moving. TLDR: My husband went on a business trip and during the trip he went on a date with some girl. I feel so bad. We exchanged numbers and did exchanged some flirty texts and she invited me over to her house. There are only two options. You can't control you being attracted, you can control what you do about it. pcgz nmjx fdtko qqsf fmvovj kogiq dma umxk xuxrje ioh